UBU. Pronounced “ooh-boo”, it means “You be you.”
I wish I could take credit for this phrase, but instead I will be forever grateful to the man who taught it to me. A man who unfortunately died years before his time, my ex-father-in-law, Jim, would throw out this little nugget of wisdom whenever I was questioning myself. When he knew me, I was incredibly unsettled spiritually, mentally and emotionally, and I can imagine he probably wanted to stamp this phrase across my forehead- but he wasn't like that.
UBU has stayed with me as a personal mantra. I “UBU” when I feel like I might be compromising myself, expecting too much of my physical self, or just getting tired and frustrated. UBU means I'm allowed to be tired and frustrated, and therefore allowed to take a nap, scream a little, stomp my foot, or simply step outside and breathe.
This little badge stayed with me while I was creating this website. Strangely enough, I was terrified of creating it, for reasons that can only mean I'm doing exactly what I'm supposed to and sometimes answering that call is scary.
Thanks to this badge, my header is colorful and swirly. UBU. I talk about my sheroes and my desire to create a place for women to be themselves. UBU. And here I am, sharing these three little letters with you, so maybe you can UBU, too.
If you UBU, put this badge on your blog and help another woman UBU too.
Via Julia of Painted Path:
” ~Mike Dooley
I send you energy to complete your tasks. I send you vision to see the big picture, the whole project and how it will impact the world, as well as clarity to visualize the details and endurance complete them all, one at a time.
I send you time. A few extra minutes here, a half-hour there to work on your goal. I send you love and support to encourage you to stick with it, and energy and stamina and devotion to get back to it, over and over, even when you feel like doing something else. I send you confetti and balloons for your completion, and celebratory chocolate and hugs and a massage when you’re winding down after. I send you a second wind after you’re finished, so you don’t stay stationary long,
I send you a trampoline for your new ideas to bounce off your completed project and take it to new heights.
I send you magical doorways and secret hatches for your journey, that will take you exactly where you need to go when things appear to be wrong. I send you magical glasses that show you the secret gratitude in the hard times, that show you compassion in the faces of your enemies, glasses that show you an oasis of encouragement when the terrain looks barren. I send you a magic cloak that makes you feel supported and protected even when you’re uncomfortable, and restores your faith even when you believe you’ve lost everything.
I send you a support team of creative, spiritual women who are available to you anytime you need them for advice, encouragement, protection and love.
I send you a magic wand inlaid with all the gems of the rainbow, that delights you and catches the light and helps you turn any situation into a fun, happy place to be.
I send you gentle reminders that you are loved, that when you are gone we miss you, that we need your gifts, that what you give to the world will be returned to you hundredfold, in ways you never thought possible.
I send you the strength, power, courage, and comfort of every creative, spiritual woman on earth. You are one of us. Welcome.
Image by CecillePL on Flickr.