“How are you doing?”
We are asked that question all day, every day.
We use it to connect, to break the ice, to greet each other and show that we care.
But what we're really asking is, “How's your ego?”
Our egos are what get upset about work. Our egos feel unhappy about the weather. Our egos wish our sports team would win. Our egos wish we made more money or felt thinner.
We connect over our egos. Our egos are valuable, and they have a purpose. Not only do we connect, but our ego keeps us alive in truly life-threatening situations.
But you are not your ego.
I know when I ask someone, “How are you?” that the person they really are, the thinker behind their thoughts, is perfect. We are all part of the Divine. As A Course in Miracles says,
Nothing real can be threatened. Nothing unreal exists.
Fear and sadness can be “threatened” with peace and happiness.
The real you, the one who does the feeling and thinking? Can't be threatened by waves of emotions.
Many of us go our whole lives without realizing this. Battered by our emotions, we ride them up and down, kicking and screaming, without connecting to the Real self within, who is as calm and peaceful, unmoved by our ego's unrest.
So when you hear, “how are you?” smile, because You are perfect and whole.
How beautiful, how perfect, how true. How many external places do we look before we find the treasure within? Please, let's stop wasting our lives looking elsewhere.
Do what you love.
It's within you.
“When Hoitsu Suzuki-roshi went out for a smoke one day, Sojun Weitsman’s little boy asked him, “Roshi, what are you doing?” This is the ultimate Zen question you have to ask yourselves, “What are you doing? What’s going on?” If you do this, you will begin to not accept habit or impulse as your way of life.”
-Jakusho Kwong Roshi
What are you doing? How about now?
This is a profound question.
I find it goes perfectly with, “What do I really want to do right now?”
When I ask these two questions, my life changes. I move into a place of power. I'm no longer floating through life mindlessly, I'm actively creating my day. My moment. My entire life.
I've put them both in a printable PDF for you. Put these somewhere you'll see them often (I have them on my desktop) and enjoy your new, fun life!
Mindfulness seems easy when everyone is getting along. We surround ourselves with amazing people, we love and are loved, and things momentarily feel great. Then “real life” swoops in, and people come into our lives that aren’t as easy to love. They say things that hurt our feelings, or worse, incite our anger and disturb our inner peace.
We live in a society that tells us the only thing we can do is defend ourselves. We believe we are being attacked! And the other person is mean! (Or wrong, or…)