We’re all searching for happiness. It’s the eternal quest. It’s the American dream. It’s the reason we do so much of the ultimately pointless things that we do, like buying things we don’t need, going to events we’d rather not, and saying things we don’t mean. We want to be happy, and we think that by doing certain things, our lives will be better, people will like us, and we’ll be happy.
Ultimately, there is only one thing keeping us from being happy right now:
Absolutely nothing is standing in the way of your happiness right now. At any given moment, you can choose to feel happy. You can choose to be joyful. You can choose to see the good in life, you can choose to be grateful.
We choose what we want to feel. When something happens that would normally upset us, we can choose right now whether or not we’ll let it upset us again. Don’t you think you’ve been upset enough in your life? Don’t you think you’ve had enough anger, resentment, annoyances, frustrations, and self-criticism? I have. I see the value in having felt those emotions long enough to know I don’t want them anymore.
I’d rather be happy.
How can you be happy in any given moment?
By focusing on what you love.
“A thought transfixed me: for the first time in my life I saw the truth as it is set into song by so many poets, proclaimed as the final wisdom by so many thinkers. The truth — that love is the ultimate and the highest goal to which man can aspire. Then I grasped the meaning of the greatest secret that human poetry and human thought and belief have to impart: The salvation of man is through love and in love. I understood how a man who has nothing left in this world still knows bliss, be it only for a brief moment, in the contemplation of his beloved.”
–Viktor Frankl, Man’s Search for Meaning
You can choose it no matter what. Viktor Frankel’s Man’s Search for Meaning illustrates that even if your body was put into the most disgusting circumstances possible, you can still find something to love in every moment, even the so-called ‘worst” moments.
Are you ready to be happy now?