What Makes You Unhappy

by Crystal Belle on January 5, 2012

 

We’re all searching for happiness. It’s the eternal quest. It’s the American dream. It’s the reason we do so much of the ultimately pointless things that we do, like buying things we don’t need, going to events we’d rather not, and saying things we don’t mean. We want to be happy, and we think that by doing certain things, our lives will be better, people will like us, and we’ll be happy.

Ultimately, there is only one thing keeping us from being happy right now:

Nothing.

Absolutely nothing is standing in the way of your happiness right now. At any given moment, you can choose to feel happy. You can choose to be joyful. You can choose to see the good in life, you can choose to be grateful.

Right now.

We choose what we want to feel. When something happens that would normally upset us, we can choose right now whether or not we’ll let it upset us again. Don’t you think you’ve been upset enough in your life? Don’t you think you’ve had enough anger, resentment, annoyances, frustrations, and self-criticism? I have. I see the value in having felt those emotions long enough to know I don’t want them anymore.

I’d rather be happy.

How can you be happy in any given moment?

By focusing on what you love.

“A thought transfixed me: for the first time in my life I saw the truth as it is set into song by so many poets, proclaimed as the final wisdom by so many thinkers. The truth — that love is the ultimate and the highest goal to which man can aspire. Then I grasped the meaning of the greatest secret that human poetry and human thought and belief have to impart: The salvation of man is through love and in love. I understood how a man who has nothing left in this world still knows bliss, be it only for a brief moment, in the contemplation of his beloved.”

–Viktor Frankl, Man’s Search for Meaning

You can choose it no matter what. Viktor Frankel’s Man’s Search for Meaning illustrates that even if your body was put into the most disgusting circumstances possible, you can still find something to love in every moment, even the so-called ‘worst” moments.

Are you ready to be happy now?

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Rose Rilling January 6, 2012 at 9:54 am

Belle,
I read the quote several times and this is what resonnates with me: The truth — that love is the ultimate and the highest goal to which man can aspire.
Well said my love. It’s simple and my practice is to keep this foremost in my day. It’s all about love–giving and receiving both are the same.
thank you once again.
Love you Rose

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Belle January 6, 2012 at 11:35 am

Thank you Rose. How beautiful and true- “giving and recieving are both the same.” Such a poignant, perfect way to put that.

And thank you for your beautiful card! I am so honored and grateful to have you in my life!
Love you,
Belle

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JeanG. January 6, 2012 at 10:21 am

What a compelling sentence: “..only one thing keeping us from being happy right now.” and what a glorious answer….”Nothing”!!! Recently, my daughter and I were talking about how we choose what we want to feel. When we come upon old habits we can right then and there…choose! Thank you, Belle!

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Belle January 6, 2012 at 11:35 am

Thank you Jean! I love hearing about the conversations with your daughter- you’re two incredible beings!
Love you,
Belle

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Jackie January 6, 2012 at 12:45 pm

Belle, Thank you so much for your insight. I’m thrilled to be receiving your emails. Love is precious and I’m learning that it really is a choice. It’s not about “searching” for love and then I’ll be happy….it’s about choosing Love right now….and happiness is already there. Blessings to you and all your followers today.

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Belle January 6, 2012 at 3:33 pm

So perfect, so true! Thank you for your comment Jackie!
Love to you,
Belle

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Katheen January 21, 2013 at 3:16 pm

What if your stuck in one spot what if it was the other way around using the word “NOTHING” when you say Ultimately, there is only one thing keeping us from being happy right now. What if we cant do the things we want at all the word “nothing” using it literally. I think thats when God puts you though a test of life maybe the pursue of happiness is really the chase maybe it is but for him. God is everything! I know im going through something where it involves me not being able to do the things i so long for because im at home and i have no car 2 kids far away from family and even friends. Literally starving to do the things i want to do EVEN the simple things like spending time with my kids cherishing moments which i cant because we are all suffering stuck in this one spot. . So my question is what do i do i know its the Lord testing me but im still stuck in one spot not doing the things i want

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Katheen January 21, 2013 at 3:27 pm

I think God want you to have EVERYTHING you need and “WANT” but through him ..through Christ! Because you can do anything through Christ and thats why there is a chase for happiness you have to acknowledge him

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Katheen January 21, 2013 at 3:28 pm

I think i just answered my own question

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Katheen January 21, 2013 at 3:50 pm

Look at how i put this…. I just got this its cool

We’re all searching for happiness. It’s the eternal quest. It’s the American dream. It’s the reason we do so much of the ultimately pointless things that we do, like buying things we don’t need, and doing things just to do them. We want to be happy, and we think that by doing certain things, our lives will be better, people will like us, and we’ll be happy.
Ultimately, there is only one thing keeping us from being happy right now:

*Nothing.

I think God want you to have EVERYTHING you need and “WANT” but through him ..through Christ! Because you can do anything through Christ and thats why there is a chase for happiness you have to acknowledge him

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