This week, Brené Brown posted an incredible video in the wake of the tragedy in Charlottesville, VA.
She talks about the difficult conversations we need to be having around this, and I love these tools, for empowering me to do what I didn't know how to do, for giving me a way to make a difference one conversation at a time.
Here are 7 takeaways from Brene's video on having these difficult conversations: (Quotes from the video, any errors mine.)
- Own your story “The stories that we don't own, own us. We have to own the story in order to write the different ending.” “It's not as painful as running from our own story.”
- We see the world through our lenses. When we pick up someone else's lens and see through it, we have empathy. We do this by believing people's stories and experiences.
- “Power is the ability to affect change.” “Powerlessness is the most dangerous state that we can ever experience. It leads to violence…shame, self-harm…” Know the difference between power-over and power.
- Have the conversation imperfectly. “To opt-out because you can't do it perfectly is the definition of privilege. “
- “We have the courage to do this, we're going to do it together, and it's going to be imperfect.”
- “Be more honest about the role we play, listen, stop being so hurtful and shaming when people are trying.”
- It's never ok to shame someone or dehumanize someone.
Please be willing to have these conversations. Like Brene said, we're all going to do it imperfectly. The fear of imperfection doesn't make us less responsible for having them.