Fear is your Guide

by Crystal Belle on July 6, 2011

World Map 1689 — No. 1

The opposite of fear is …

Peace? Courage? Bravery?

I believe you can have all of these and still be fearful.

Fear is with us often. We’re afraid of being bad parents, we’re afraid of living the crazy lives we dream of, we’re afraid of saying what’s on our minds- whether it be “I love you” or “this isn’t working for me.”

We’re afraid of exactly what we need to be doing.

How can we be a good parent without first knowing what it is to be a bad one? How can we live a life that others tell us is crazy until we first know that this one isn’t satisfying enough? How can we say what’s on our minds unless we first silence ourselves, and experience the pain that silence brings?

Fear is your guide. Fear is a clear map of the path your heart truly wants to take.

I love maps. I honor those who have gone before me, whether it’s through physical terrain or emotional territory. I am grateful for those who have blazed trails and also taken the time to write down where they’ve been. Whether the mapmakers were Lewis and Clarke of the Rockies or Freud of the psyche, they recorded for us so we would know, too.

I believe fear is our physical response to spirit leading us with our inner knowing.

For me, fear is a clear indicator that I’m supposed to go there. It’s no less real and valid than the street sign on the corner.

Granted, I may not take the road right away. I might set up camp this side of the road sign and think about it for awhile. I might even try to go back the way I came. But my destiny is to move forward, and I will not be content until I do so.

What are you afraid of? Is there a chance that’s your path?

{ 12 comments… read them below or add one }

Carol Bailey Floyd July 6, 2011 at 10:13 pm

I’ve always said that fear is your friend, letting you know that you need to pay attention to something, someone, a goal, a barrier — whatever. It’s when you don’t pay attention that it gets out of hand and can wreak all kinds of havoc. I have always been fascinated by fear, and how it can either help or hurt us, among other things. I’ve read a lot about it (one of my favorites is LOVE IS LETTING GO OF FEAR by Gerald Jampolsky), but I am telling you — you have written one of the best pieces I have ever read — very insightful and thought provoking, with concepts explained in creative and memorable ways. I am so glad you created this website and that you are writing! Hooray!

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Belle July 8, 2011 at 10:54 pm

“It’s when you don’t pay attention that it gets out of hand” oh my goodness Carol, this is so true! I’m interested in the intersection between fear and worry- fear typically motivates us to act, but if you let it turn to worry, there is no action there, we’re just sitting in that proverbial rocking chair, going nowhere.

Thank you for your kind words! I am so blessed to have you in my life, Learned One!

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JeanG. July 7, 2011 at 9:40 am

Beautiful Belle, this is absolutely one of your best creative writings!!!!! Amazing concepts to absorb. Since I love maps (you had me at the map illustration :) I can relate to the gratitude for trailblazers in the past and those now and those to come, with accomplishments, and at least efforts, from fear in some form. I read a quote by Byron Katie…”There is something better than heaven. It is the eternal, meaningless, infinitely CREATIVE MIND. It can’t stop for time or space or even joy. It is so brilliant that it will shake what’s left of you to the depths of all-consuming wonder.” Thank you for your brilliant creative mind!!!

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Belle July 8, 2011 at 10:54 pm

Thank you so much! I love that quote by Katie, I hadn’t read it before! Such a blessing!

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Kerilyn July 8, 2011 at 11:20 am

GREAT post today beautiful… I really needed to read this today.

I’ve been feeling fear in my 9-5 job. The job hasn’t changed, I have. What originally made me feel safe and secure, now gives me high levels of anxiety as my focus has changed. The level of detail needed to do what I do during the day is not as high on my priority list as it once was, and in turn, I am feeling burnt out and at the same time, fearful for it’s what financially sustains me at this present time. I have a possible opportunity to change directions (and at the same time focus on my own coaching business) but in the meantime, this fear and anxiety seem to paralyze me and seep over into my personal life as well as my own aspirations.

Like you said, this feeling of fear is my map, guiding me away from that which no longer serves me. I know the journey to liberation is one that includes these feelings, so I work to give myself permission to rest when I am able, knowing that steering this ship away is the ultimate goal.

Love what you said , ‘I believe fear is our physical response to spirit leading us with our inner knowing. ‘ I acknowledge my spirits message and hold onto the knowing that something is about to change.

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Belle July 8, 2011 at 10:56 pm

It’s so profound, Kerilyn, that you’ve said, “The job hasn’t changed, I have.” I know from listening to your powerful words for me that you have all the resources available to you to make it through this, and you’ll do so with flying colors. I’m cheering for you!

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julia July 11, 2011 at 6:18 am

Oh, wow, Belle…just had the honor of reading this at 3:00 in the morning. So much here, such a beautiful guide this post is. I just read in twice and it’s resonating so deeply…

These words, wow…

“How can we say what’s on our minds unless we first silence ourselves, and experience the pain that silence brings?”

And these:

“I believe fear is our physical response to spirit leading us with our inner knowing.”

And these:

“fear is a clear indicator that I’m supposed to go there. It’s no less real and valid than the street sign on the corner.”

Shit. I could quote this whole thing.

Thank you, thank you for taking the time to write your words down.

Precious.

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Belle July 11, 2011 at 10:13 pm

Julia, I missed you so much! It was so strange because I just “met” you, but your absence from the web was felt. I’m so glad to see you back.

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Heather July 11, 2011 at 11:24 pm

This is beautiful.. stewing on it now.. I have let fear guide me way to much.. I like the idea of thinking of it as a guide to what we want our meant to go towards not what we are supposed to avoid and run from..

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Belle July 13, 2011 at 10:37 am

We all have, Heather. For so long I thought that avoiding what was making me afraid was keeping me safe. Now I know it was keeping me locked in the dungeon of my own mind, unable to be creative, intuitive, and free. It’s such a beautiful (and scary) process to turn around and run towards our fears!

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brooke July 13, 2011 at 7:44 pm

Profound. I love this post. Thank you.

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cevon July 21, 2011 at 12:55 am

I agree 100%

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