Can You Change Your Values?

by Crystal Belle

Can you change your values?Lately (and in response to overwhelming interest from CSW readers) I’ve been doing a lot of work on “purpose”- what it means, how to discover our purpose, and how to live in alignment with it once we’ve found it.

For me, I’ve also discovered that purpose is inextricably aligned with my values.

I was lucky to find my purpose without knowing my values- but I’ve been stagnant sometimes in fulfilling my purpose because I didn’t understand the ways in which my values were actually hindering me from moving forward. [Read more…]



A Humbling Question

by Crystal Belle

Here’s a question I’m going to ponder tonight, and, I hope, every hour for the rest of my life. You’re welcome to ponder it, too. Let me know what you come up with.

What can I do right now to make the world a better place?

PS: Here’s a great video to put things into perspective, too.


Creative Spiritual Women- Getting Comfortable with Uncertainty

In my last post, I talked about the fear of the unknown being greater than our suffering. Lately, I’ve been more aware of my fears and “anticipated suffering” and, being more aware, I’ve lessened some of those fears.

The other night my husband was holding our youngest daughter, who is almost a year old. They were both happily eating rice together at the table- for the baby, that also meant throwing, pawing, squeezing… ahh, all the things that babies do. I was crawling out of my skin with discomfort as every rice granule hit the floor… because I was anticipating having to clean it up. I said something sharp to my husband, who responded, “She’s having fun. I’ll clean it up.” My shoulders relaxed and I thought to myself, “okay good, it’s on him.”

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Question for You

by Crystal Belle

I have a question for you.

My purpose in life, as close as I’ve been able to articulate it, is to Help Women Suffer Less. It’s why I write on Creative Spiritual Women, it’s why I do 90% of the things I do. As a teen, I had a huge inner shift take place that allowed me to stop suffering so much and start living- and I have been committed to a) sharing that and b) figuring out new ways to suffer less ever since.

Here’s the thing: [Read more…]


Paulo Coelho from

We all have people in our lives who are Negative Nellies. They can’t wait to tell you what’s wrong about X thing or Y situation, from the state of the country to how matted their dog’s fur is now that the weather’s changed. Sometimes (eek) we’re even that person!

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What are you expecting?

by Crystal Belle

“Whatever the mind is taught to expect, that it will build, produce, and bring forth for you.” -Catherine Ponder



What Do You Expect From Life?

by Crystal Belle


Check this out:

“Quantum physics tells us that it is the act of observing an object that causes it to be there where and how we observe it.

An object does not exist independently of its observer! So, as you can see, your observation, your attention to something, and your intention, literally creates that thing.” -John Assaraf

It’s really, really important what we pay attention to. Our thoughts are literally creating our reality.


When I stop and meditate on that for awhile, it blows my mind. (Figuratively :)

Which reminds me of my favorite Peace Pilgrim quote: “If you knew how powerful your thoughts are, you would never think a negative thought.”

In my crazy diagonal thinking, I applied this to what we expect from life. Y’know, we’ve picked up some negative programming along the way, but all it takes is this moment, this thought, to unravel that.

Here’s a bit more on all that + some awesome things to expect:

Read More: What to Expect from Life

So tell me, thought leader, what do you expect from life? And in what ways are your expectations showing up for you?



Is Desire Evil?

by Crystal Belle


 “Desire is God tapping at the door of your mind, trying to give you greater good.” -Dr. Emilie Cady

Desire is sacred.

Many of us have the idea that our desires are bad. We think we shouldn’t want what we want- be it a cookie or a city block. We want a little extra time in our day, and we shame ourselves for not accepting the good we already have. We want to get out of a dead-end job, but we feel guilty for not appreciating the steady paycheck.

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When Mindfulness Doesn’t Work

by Crystal Belle

“Few of us ever live in the present. We are forever anticipating what is to come or remembering what has gone.”

― Louis L’Amour

If you’ve felt tired, frustrated, or unmotivated to pursue your dreams and live the greatest vision you have for yourself and your life, this will help. If you’ve felt like you’ve failed at trying to be “mindful”, and constantly find yourself living in the past or the future, well… this entire website will help, because helping people live mindfully is part of my life’s purpose.

Lately I’ve noticed two conflicting messages in the personal growth arena, and I can see in the people I talk to and coach that it’s tripping some of us up. When we inadvertently try to believe conflicting ideas, it can make us less motivated to move forward in a powerful, purposeful way- because we’re confused! We need real clarity before we can move forward and make a difference. So if you’re stuck, frustrated, not quite sure why you can’t get to where you’re going… read on. [Read more…]



One day, Kim and her dear friend sat down to dinner at a nice restaurant on the beach. They were basking in the yellow-crimson-royal purple sunset while they scanned the menu. Kim decided on the fresh fish special, and her waiter applauded her good taste as he snapped his order book closed. She and her friend were lost in conversation for a few moments, then paused to watch the beautiful beach scene just beyond.

As Kim’s eyes gazed over the sands, she watched the gulls gliding gently over the water. A man running caught her eye. Wait. There’s something strange about that man. He’s wearing the same uniform as the waiters in the restaurant she’s sitting in. She focused on him. It actually looked like her waiter, the one that just took her order. In fact, she’s sure it’s him. He’s scanning the beach for something.

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