While we were building our house last year, I had a realization.
You can take one man, and ask him to build a house, perhaps in the woods. By himself, he can, at best, create a shack. Even an advanced mind that can conceive of something elaborate with many stories can only execute so much on his own. He may create something cozy and beautiful, yet it is still likely to be simple, if done completely on his own. Continue reading →
“When we fail to set boundaries and hold people accountable, we feel used and mistreated. This is why we sometimes attack who they are, which is far more hurtful than addressing a behavior or a choice.”
― Brené Brown
Yesterday morning, in a candle-lit loft under a red net canopy, with the cool breeze blowing softly through two small windows, our monthly Goddess Circle group met. The prompts led us to discuss boundaries, and as we helped each other with the practical words and phrases to use, one woman mentioned she wished we had a script for all these situations, a sort of boundary cheat sheet.
There are two approaches to this request, a sort of “chicken or the egg” paradox. Continue reading →
Growing up, I had this inner limitation that I couldn’t quite put my finger on. I thought that some people just had what it takes, they were born lucky, or they were in the right place at the right time to do amazing things in the world. I believed that because of my station in life, I could only go so far. Family members would reinforce this with the accusation, “Don’t get to big for your britches!” when I would succeed in something.
In an excruciating paradox, I also believed that if I tried hard enough, I could change and get better and become the person I wanted to be. Continue reading →
A couple of people in the Complaint-Free Challenge asked me this week, How do I deal with other people’s complaining?
We’re over here, doing our work, getting as complaint-free as we can, and we run into someone (maybe someone we love dearly) who unleashes a constant stream of complaining that we can barely stomach. Continue reading →
We have so many excuses for what we don't do.
One of the biggest excuses I hear is, “I don't have enough time.”
Oh, you lie.
(I do it too! You're not alone.) Continue reading →
We all have that voice within us that fights sometimes. And it's very, very good at finding the right argument that we'll listen to.
We're tired, it'd be better if we did this later, when we have more focused attention, it's not good to be interrupted, it won't be as good now as if I did it later. I'm not good enough, I need to work on something first and then it will be stellar. I need someone's opinion/help/permission to do it first. Continue reading →
There's something so powerful when a woman shows up for herself.
My entire life, I've made excuses for why I don't do what I really want to do. Too tired, to late, to early, too many distractions, etc.
There were things I wanted in my life that I just wouldn't commit to- health, business, relationship goals that I knew would benefit from more discipline and attention, but I didn't make them a priority. I always had too many other things filling up the time. Continue reading →
Tonight, in my backyard, a small group of women came together under the full moon in a goddess circle. Surrounded by twinkle lights, we did yoga under the stars, pushed down into goddess pose, laid in savasana under the big dipper and watched the fireflies play in the grass. The moon crested over the trees as we began to talk about our intentions for the group and the sacred space. Continue reading →
We get caught up in the glamor and drama of not being present. We have the ability to imagine worlds and deeply detailed scenarios, both past and future. Our worry often has no bounds- we worry about microscopic bacteria and massive meteors, and everything in between. We seek happiness like a drug, the one thing that will make us feel okay, the one thing that will make all this struggle worthwhile.